Heart-Centered Leadership lies in your ability to stop, go inward, and reflect on taking action that you both know and feel is right rather than succumbing to external pressures and circumstances. Embracing a heart-centered approach will put you in a much more powerful position than you can ever imagine. When you connect with the people that you influence and do it on an emotional level with their best interest and the desired outcome in mind, everyone wins—and wants to do more, be more, and give more.
Leading from the heart brings the best out of everyone and magnifies the effort and the impact that people are willing to give. Imagine everyone joyfully serving and achieving together—because they want to, care to, and love to.
10 Minute Mindset: “Heart-Centered Leadership” Episode Transcript
(00:00:10) Hey, everyone. Mario Porreca here, and welcome to 10 Minute Mindset.
(00:00:16) We’re gonna kick off today just like we kick off every day, with the GIO method. And the GIO method is a way in which we journal, slash, meditate, and we become outcome-focused, plan actions towards those outcomes, and do it from a place of gratitude.
(00:00:28) GIO is G-I-O. I like to work it back to front, I start with the O. And the O is outcomes. So what is your outcome? And when you’re thinking about your outcome, it has to be two things: it has to be clear and it has to be compelling. It has to be clear, meaning specific. What exactly do you want? And can you feel those feelings of what it feels like to have that, to achieve that outcome?
(00:00:48) And that’s why it needs to be compelling. Because a thought, in and of itself, has very little creative power. But when you put emotion behind that thought, and you become attached to that emotion, then you create an intention. Because you’re emotionally connected to a specific thought that you can see in your mind, and you visualize what it feels like to achieve that, and then it creates an intention.
(00:01:05) And an intention is just what do you intend to do about it? And that’s what the I in GIO stands for. Now that you have this clear and compelling outcome that you see in the future, what are you gonna do about it?
(00:01:13) And you have to break your intention down into three steps: Number one, what’s one thing you’re going to do within the hour? Because right now, you’re focused. Right now, your attention is on that outcome. Once you walk out that door, anything goes. Your focus is gonna be split, your attention can go in a million different directions. So what are you going to do within the hour to begin to build momentum, while your focus is at its peak?
(00:01:32) Number two, what’s something you’re going to do within the 24 hours of today? So it’s always on the back of your mind, it’s always in your unconscious mind, your outcome. So now you have two action items that you’re going to complete that are outcome-focused today.
(00:01:43) And then, what’s one thing you’re going to work on just a little bit each day, over the course of the week or the month? So it’s like a long-term project that you build momentum towards, and you accomplish a little bit of action towards each day.
(00:01:54) I like to use my iPhone and the notes app, because I can put the checklist option that they have in there, and I can check them off as I do them. And, by the way, you want to do that one thing within the hour, because then that really builds that sense of accomplishment right away.
(00:02:07) And it’s towards your outcome, it’s not a to-do list. It’s not just adding something there to do an action, and feel good about doing that action. These are outcome-focused items, because you’re creating them when you’re in that state of a clear and compelling future.
(00:02:18) And then, the G in GIO is gratitude. And so, what are you grateful for? Gratitude is one of the most powerful states that you can be in. You cannot feel a negative emotion when you’re in a true state of gratitude. So what are three things to be grateful for that you can focus on today?
(00:02:30) And this is where I like to meditate. I like to spend at least five minutes focusing on these three things. Number one, what’s something that I get every day, something that I receive? Something that may be small that I maybe overlooked, but now that I look at it, I can say, wow, I’m really glad that I get to receive that, and it puts me in a state of gratitude. Appreciate the simple things, so you don’t fall into that law of familiarity.
(00:02:47) The second thing is what’s something I get to give every day? Because fulfillment comes from contribution. So what’s something that I can give to the world today that makes it a better place, that makes it better for other people? That I can be thankful and I can get fulfilled, because I’m able to give that, and because I do it willingly?
(00:03:02) And finally, what’s something that I am? And this is what I believe is the most important, because we build our identity, and the strongest force in the human personality is that we have to remain consistent with what we believe our identity is. So I am what? Build it intentionally. Instead of allowing circumstance to dictate who you become and dictate who you believe you are, do it intentionally.
(00:03:20) Because you are perfect at your core, you are magnificent, you are a genius. You have to embrace that, and allow it to shine. Become your biggest fan, your own biggest fan. Love yourself, because when you love yourself deeply, that gives you the ability to love others. Because you can’t give someone something you don’t have.
(00:03:35) And so, what are you? Say it to yourself with passion, say it with purpose. Put your physiology into it, put a lot of energy behind it, and do it often. Because what you tell yourself on a consistent basis will show up in your life. Because any time obstacles come up, and when you’re pursuing this outcome — this outcome is something you haven’t been able to achieve before — you’re gonna have to grow to become the type of person that achieves that, and that’s gonna create obstacles.
(00:03:55) You’re going to hit some obstacles, you’re gonna have some growing pains. And when that happens, you’re gonna revert to your strongest conditioning. So create your conditioning, and really make this one of your strengths, that I am powerful, I am bold, I always overcome it, I always find a way, it always works out for me.
(00:04:09) And if you really believe that, then when those things happen, when you come up against those obstacles, you will revert to that, and you will find a way. Because you are unstoppable, and you are a genius, and you are magnificent. But you have to tell yourself that, and you have to really make yourself believe that, and you have to put energy behind it. And that’s what gratitude can do.
(00:04:25) By the way, don’t just be grateful for those three things. Think about one other thing, too, in the midst of all this, that kind of encompasses this stuff. What can you be grateful for in your outcome? Because you’ve created this future, this future outcome that you’re going to pursue, and so you need to be grateful for that.
(00:04:39) If you’re only grateful for the things that are in your life right now, you’re going to attract more of the things that are in your life right now. If you can wrap gratitude and really cover that future outcome that’s clear and compelling, that you want to create with gratitude, you’ll start to attract that into your life.
(00:04:51) So be grateful that you have that vision. Be grateful that you can see it so clearly, that you’re already experiencing it in your mind. Because everything starts with a thought, everything starts in our minds. And when we tie that emotion to that thought, we create intentions, which create actions. And then, those actions create beliefs, and those beliefs create results.
(00:05:07) So be thankful for that, that you have that vision, that you can be that specific about it, that you know it’s going to happen, because you’re already living it within your mind. And everything starts in your mind, everything starts with a thought.
(00:05:18) So that’s the GIO method. We do that every single day to build a solid foundation for our day.
(00:05:22) Today, I want to talk a little bit about … we’ve talked a lot over the course of the week about being heart-centered, and about feelings. You think first, you have that thought, and then you attach emotion to it, and you feel it.
(00:05:31) And I came across this great article on Inc.com about heart-centered leadership. And we’ve talked about leadership in the past, so I want to talk about some of the things in this article, because we’re all leaders. We’ve talked about that in a past episode, that we all have a leadership role in our lives. Whether it’s with our families, whether it’s with our jobs, whether it’s with our friends, we all are leaders and we influence other people.
(00:05:51) So how can we do that from a heart-centered place? Not from an analytical place, not from a place from scaring people or demanding respect, but from a place of I really am coming from my heart, I really care about these people, and I know that we’re all stronger when we work together.
(00:06:05) And that’s why masterminds are so popular. I’m sure you’ve heard of masterminds. In “Think and Grow Rich,” Napoleon Hill talks about master minds a lot. And masterminds is when you take two or more people and they focus their thoughts on one objective. When you put those minds together, it creates a mastermind, which is infinitely more powerful than the singular mind.
(00:06:20) And so, this is somewhat like that. This is heart-centered leadership, so you’re leading from feeling, you’re leading from the heart. And it lies in your ability to stop and go inward, and reflect on the course of action that you know is the right one, other than succumbing to external pressure and circumstances.
(00:06:34) So leading from the heart, it’s not just a nice idea or theory, it’s not a magical dream. But by embracing a heart-centered approach to leadership, you’ll be in a more powerful position than you could ever have possibly imagined.
(00:06:43) Nothing is more powerful or motivating than someone that you influence or that someone that’s on your team that has the same outcome in mind as you do, that is willing to go the distance for you and your organization or towards your outcome, because he or she is inspired by you and respects you so highly. More importantly, by taking that heart-centered leadership approach, you’re going to genuinely and deeply touch the lives of others by your actions.
(00:07:05) So here are 21 — and I’m gonna try to go through all of them — traits of the heart-centered leader. Number one … and number one, this says you tell the truth. But truth is something we can debate, because I even read a study recently that says when we talk about our past, and we think about our past, we think we’re telling about what really happened, but over 50% of the things we tell didn’t even actually happen that way. We make them up, because our own beliefs and filters cover those.
(00:07:27) So I’m not going to say tell the truth, even though that’s what this article says. I’m gonna say be honest. A heart-centered leader is always honest. You’re always telling it how you see it, how you perceive it. You tell it like it is, you’re honest. So there’s no misleading, you’re not trying to manipulate. You’re just being honest to work together, to get the job done.
(00:07:42) Number two, you trust the people you’re working with to do the right thing. So you’re all coming from that place of doing the right thing. You’re not undercutting anyone, you’re not trying to pull anyone back. You all have the same outcome in mind and alignment.
(00:07:52) Number three, you’re able to relinquish control. And that’s really important as a leader, because leaders create other leaders. That’s really what you do. So you have to be able to trust the people that you work with. Being that you come from a heart-centered approach, you have to know that they’re coming from that, as well.
(00:08:04) Number four, you know your impact and are mindful of how the words and actions you use may be interpreted in formal and informal ways. And what that means is always coming from a place of love, always coming from a place of respect, always coming from a place of wanting to be better and lift up the people around you.
(00:08:18) Number five, you aim to serve the people that you’re leading, not the other way around. And true leadership is servant leadership, so you’re always looking to help them, to bring them up, to see how you can make their lives better. Because when they see your example, of you leading by serving, they’re going to do the same thing.
(00:08:35) And if they’re serving — if they’re serving the clients, if they’re serving other people in your organization, if they’re serving other people in your family — then it’s gonna be a magical experience, because everyone’s helping everyone, and everyone’s working together.
(00:08:45) Number six, you’re open-minded and do not judge or assume, but you come to understand a situation or behavior. And that’s a big one. You don’t judge people based on anything other than what are the results, what are the behaviors, how can we fix this?
(00:08:57) Instead of judging, try helping. Instead of standing back and looking at it, and casting your judgment on it, look at it and say, okay, here’s the situation or the event. How can we turn this event in our favor? How can we say this is working for us, life happens for us, this event is happening for us? How can we make this our own?
(00:09:13) Number seven, you take care of your whole self — physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. That’s a huge one. That’s what this whole thing is about. The core three that I always talk about is just that — physiology, psychologically, strategy. So you take care of the whole self, because you can only be as effective as a leader as you are able to show up in the world.
(00:09:31) Number eight, you have the willingness to look in the mirror and come to terms with your own character flaws. Once you take ownership of your flaws or what is perceived as flaws, no one can use them against you.
(00:09:42) Number nine, you are committed to personal and professional growth. And if you’re listening to this podcast, I assume you are. But that’s a huge one. You’re always willing to grow. You know you’re never at that destination. You’re always on the journey, you’re always trying to get better, you’re always growing, and you’re always trying to help other people. By the way, once you grow, then you have more to give to others. And growth and contribution equals fulfillment.
(00:10:00) Number 10, you strive to mentor others and surround yourself with people that have skills, talents, and styles different from your own. And that goes back to self-awareness. Looking in the mirror, being able to see … I don’t want to call them flaws, but you may have some weaknesses. But you also have a ton of strengths.
(00:10:11) So if you can focus on your strengths, and find other people who have strengths in the areas that may be not so strong for you, now you have a team that, if led by the heart, if you all connect with the heart, that you can create really great things.
(00:10:21) Number 11, you’re empathetic and strive to maintain the self-esteem of others.
Number 12, you have an open-door policy. So communication is always open.
(00:10:28) Number 13, you believe that given the right support, people rise to the occasion on their own and actually feel good about being held accountable. It’s about having people take ownership, creating other leaders, having them rise to the occasion and really take control. And then, being able to step back and applaud them for that, and give them the encouragement and the praise that they deserve.
(00:10:46) Number 14, you develop strategies that involve, promote, call upon, and inspire people to participate fully in creating, renewing, or revitalizing the organization. It’s all about making people feel welcome, and making them want to be there. Not to have to willpower themselves to go to work and get done what’s happening, but for them to actually want to be there and participate, and have the same outcome in mind that you do.
(00:11:06) Number 15, you have compassion for yourself and others.
Number 16, you replacement blame with responsibility. So everyone is responsible, but you don’t blame people.
(00:11:13) 17, you believe that people have positive intentions, even if their behavior appears to illustrate the opposite. And that’s a huge one, because people are not their behavior. So you can still love the person and dislike their behavior, and help them create a better behavior that will create a better result for everyone.
(00:11:27) Number 18, you’re committed to making difference, not only in your own life, but in the lives of the people you work with and society as a whole.
(00:11:32) Number 19, you listen before speaking. Don’t listen with the intent to speak, listen with the intent to understand. And then, when it’s appropriate to speak, because you think it will serve someone, then you speak.
Number 20, you create an environment where feedback is expected and appreciated.
(00:11:47) And 21, you are not afraid to admit your mistakes.
When feedback is appreciated and you’re not afraid to admit when you mess up, and you take responsibility — there’s that word again — and ownership, that is all a part of the growth mindset. Because you can always grow, you can always get better, you can always learn a new skill and become better at something.
(00:12:03) Lead from the heart, create leaders with the people around you. Really care about them, really get in connection with how they feel, and allow them to feel how you feel. And then, from that place, you can serve each other better, and you can serve each other and make a bigger impact, and make a more profound impact on the world and towards your united outcomes. Because if you have other people that you unite with, and you have the same outcome, you will reach it that much faster than if you’re trying to go it alone.
Transcribed by: Janice Ho | June 19, 2018